Sunday, February 14, 2010
A dichotomy in what it means to be respected
I’ve noticed a curious dichotomy in “expectations” of people. For me, one of the most upsetting events can occur if someone else does not “respect” my need for freedom, and creates a situation demanding sacrifice (as I would experience it) without even thinking about the impact on me. But I’ve noticed that a lot of people are wired very differently. They expect formal demonstrations of respect, in a social or familial sense. I would never expect someone to “respect” my “authority”, just my freedom. (That became a problem, with classroom management and discipline, when I was substitute teaching; see July 25, 2007 on this blog.) I would never expect someone to prove that he or she “loves” me with some show of respect. But I find others don’t follow my pattern, to say the least. Visit my book review blog today for more.